Here are the two biggest problems I see in people who say they want to succeed:
1) The first problem is that MOST OF THE TIME, they don’t want it bad enough, and they thus will fail. And by not want it bad enough, I mean that they aren’t willing to give up what they need to give up to achieve their goal.
2) The second problem is that even if they do give it up, they are addicted to a “stimulus (work hard) / response (get results)” model of success and get discouraged when they find out that massive success really doesn’t follow this pattern.
Let’s start with the second problem above – ADDICTION TO STIMULUS / RESPONSE or INPUT / OUTPUT results.
PART 1: INPUT AND OUTPUT DO NOT CORRELATE ON THE ROAD TO MASSIVE SUCCESS
A lot of people tend to think that going to the gym and working out is a microcosm for success. You see memes all over the internet like this:
Well, going to the gym is certainly better than doing nothing, but the model of getting fit/ripped/sexy is just not the model of succeeding in life, or every meathead / fit person I know would be successful (and they definitely are not).
What is the difference? Well, IF you exercise, IF you push through the pain of sets and tiredness, then you WILL get bigger, you will get leaner and you WILL look and feel better. It’s just biology.
In other words, in the gym, there is a direct correlation between input and result.
Success does not play by those rules. Success is not linear, like working out / exercise is.
Do you want to know what what achieving real success looks like? Real success looks like being able to put in A LOT OF INPUT and get NO RESULT, and respond like a fucking champion i.e. still hammer out the hours, still pivot tirelessly to try to find solutions, STILL MOVE FORWARD… in the FACE of seeming to achieve so little (if anything) for your hard work / input. Real greatness is becoming OBSESSED with why your input is yielding such a shitty output. Thats the key. It’s hitting dead ends after putting MONTHS IN, and not being DISCOURAGED, but instead being OBSESSED with finding the better solution.
For example – I know the BEST internet marketer in the industry. The guy gets discouraged for about an hour or two when something doesn’t go his way. Then, he gets OBSESSED with why shit isn’t working. I know many average / bad marketers and they get DEPRESSED and lose confidence when things aren’t working. Look at the difference in response here. If something doesn’t go according to plan, do you get OBSESSED on finding a solution, or DEPRESSED about why you are not achieving a result? If the latter, and you wallow in it for more than 1-2 hours, then I hate to break it to you, but you’re a fucking pussy and you’re not going to succeed. You don’t have what it takes, period.
PART 2: YOU JUST DON’T WANT IT BAD ENOUGH, SON!
Now, back to the first point I made in this article – the fact that people just don’t want it enough.
Unless you can give up parties, spending a lot of time with girls, sunny sunday afternoons in the sun, parties with friends and good company, to pursue and become OBSESSED with your goals, then your probability of achieving those goals is low. Unless you can prioritize your goals over whatever it is that you love THE MOST but that takes THE MOST time away from your work, then you may succeed in a small way if you catch the right wave, but you will achieve only a part of what you could have achieved, and your probability of MASSIVE success goes down considerably.
Do you know WHY successful people prioritize like this? What their internal motivation is? It’s that they want it SO FUCKING BAD that doing ANYTHING else would make them feel emptiness in life. I find that the only people who have this internal motivation are those who either (a) have truly experienced the suffering of having no money or (b) do not buy into the complete bullshit of society of “money doesn’t make you happy” or “live a balanced life” or “do what you love”. Not saying that these are 100% wrong, but they are quite simply used by poor fuckers who create a distorted meaning from what they should have been. A rich person and a poor person can say these lines, and they will mean completely different things inside their heads.
For example, I STILL have people telling me that they believe in “balance”, that I should have more “balance” and then they begin citing successful people who have balanced lives. OK, maybe those people have balance NOW that they are successful, sure, but I highly doubt they did when they were building their first success. When I hear this “balance” talk from people, it makes me laugh inside. I have now heard enough about balance, have accomplished enough in my life, to know what I am talking about, so I’m going to say it – “balance is bullshit if you want unbalanced results”.
I hear people telling me about how person “X” and “Y” are balanced and successful. I would love to see this. Seriously. I would love to see someone who was not OBSESSED and achieved massive success when they were young. I sure as hell didn’t do it their way. I came as an immigrant to a new country that I moved to when I was 24, without help of my family, and by the time I was 30, I was a multi-millionaire and thats how I did it. If you are more successful and younger than myself and did it without your parents help or have a different opinion, then leave a comment telling me your point of view and how you did it without insane levels of focus, and how you would modify the central tenet of being OBSESSED.
If you think that I’m talking to YOU through this post… I’m actually not. I’m talking to myself. What do I mean? I only ever write this blog for myself. You see, I see failure and potential failure in SO many people around me that I am afraid. I don’t fear for them… I fear for me. Because if I’m honest, I see the traits that make those people unsuccessful… in me. Those demons – laziness, discouragement, inability to give what it takes, inability to pivot, distraction – are common to all. It scares me because there are still big things that I want to accomplish, and I know now what it takes to accomplish them, and I see the traits that make them failures… in me. I’m scared that I will not want what I want enough, I’m scared that I will be discouraged by banging my head against metaphorical dead ends in my pursuits and not being able to pivot, I’m scared that I will lose the small battles because its so hard to give up the pleasures in life that I have to, to achieve them. I look at those who are unsuccessful, and I use them as inspiration to remind me of what I DO NOT WANT TO BE.
I have to look at myself and understand that I have to fight the first conscious, and then UNCONSCIOUS, war to live my life in a way that others will not, so that you will accomplish some day what others cannot. I have to understand that I will often work work months, years even, without results, and when this happens, it is my job to pivot and keep trying and keep moving. Fast. I don’t know when a “break” is going to happen, or IF it will happen. All I can do in my new pursuits is keep trying, keep pivoting and put the same hunger and attitude that I put in to my current success, into my next one.
If you are reading this and thinking “this guy is extreme” or “he’s wrong for x, y and z” or “I can’t do this because of X”. Well yes, I’m extreme… extremely successful. But I’m not wrong, because I’m young and extremely rich. So feel free to excuse away whatever I said above with whatever excuse you usually use, click the red “x” button on the top of the page, have a tea, eat a cookie and in the words of Morpheus, “take the blue pill… wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe”.